RED FLAGS Are You Being Abused?


Are You Being Abused? Take this short quiz to find out if you are in an abusive situation.

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Before you met your partner, you had more friends than you do now (or saw them more than you do now).

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You used to be more outgoing and involved with your friends, family, or outside activities.

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You often cry or are very sad.

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If your partner texts or calls you, you must call him/her back right away.

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He/she told you he/she loved you early in the relationship.

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He/she is jealous if you look or speak casually with another person of the opposite sex.

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He/she accuses you of behavior you don't actually do.

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He/she is aggressive in other areas of his/her life; puts his/her fist through a wall or closet, bangs his/her fist to make a point, or throws things when angry.

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He/she frequently roughhouses or play-wrestles with you.

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He/she makes excuses for his/her poor behavior or says it's your fault.

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He/she has a "tragic" home life; s/he was physically or verbally abused, and/or one or both parents are alcoholics or use drugs.

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He/she drinks or uses drugs.

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He/she frequently gives you "advice" about your choice of friends, clothes, hairstyle, etc.

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He/she calls you demeaning names, then laughs and tells you s/he was only kidding or that you are too sensitive.

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You have become secretive or started lying to your parents since you began dating your partner.

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You are very miserable when you are apart from your partner.

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You have to explain yourself to your partner or often say that you're sorry.

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Your partner makes most of the decisions.

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He/she makes you afraid by giving intimidating looks or gestures.

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Your partner doesn't take your concerns or opinions seriously.

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Your partner threatens to kill him/herself if you leave them.


You may be in an abusive relationship.

It doesn't appear that you are in an abusive relationship.

If you have answered "yes" to any of these questions, it may be helpful to connect with our advocates through Heart Chat by texting 949-484-8440 or sending an email at heartchat@laurashouse.org.

You can also call our 24-hour hotline at 949-361-3775

You don't seem to have any indication that you are in an abusive relationship. However, if you still feel that you are, there are programs available to help you, call 949.361.3775 today!

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