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Having a friend who is being abused by a partner is frustrating and sad. The following are some tips to keep in mind if you suspect that your friend is in an abusive relationship:
- Listen and be patient, knowing they might not make a change now
- Tell them that you are concerned for them
- Encourage your friend to take part in activities outside of the abusive relationship
- Suggest a safety plan (Laura's House Therapist can help)
- Protect their privacy and confidentiality
- Know your limits and be sure to keep yourself safe
- Help your friend recognize the abuse: provide information you've learned on this site
- Give them resources
- Encourage them to find an adult to talk with
- Be a part of their support system
Most adolescents that break up with an abuser make up at least SEVEN times. This is the average number of times a victim will leave and return. You must keep this in mind when trying to help. Breaking up and making up is very dangerous for the victim as most homicide victims are killed during the first 72 hours after the break up. This is why it is so important to formulate a Safety Plan.
If you or a friend needs help, call:
Laura's House 24 Toll Free Hotline: (866) 498-1511
Laura's House Counseling and Resource Center: (949) 361-3775